Battle of the Sexes


“As long as you conceive yourself to be an individual male or a female being you will not be the all-pervading, eternal and transcendental Self. Go with the conviction that you are not the bodily self, that you are beyond births and deaths, that you are dynamic, being dynamism itself and are apparently experienced only as pure and simple awareness.”

~Nisargadatta Maharaj

The seemingly inexhaustible conversation carried on across temporal and cultural borders regarding some alleged “battle of the sexes” is actually based on a false premise, and that is that there is some sort of eternally destined conflict between men and women (typically revolving around mating issues, which in turn affect all other aspects of relationships).

What can be observed is that competition itself is a primary survival trait which is still conditioned into the developmental process for just about every human being, just as it has always been for other animals. The only difference is, humans are somewhat more clever and sophisticated than many other species of animals, and so tend to be potentially more dangerous to themselves and others with whom they come in contact, particularly in regard to gender interactions and mating rituals.

Although some may claim that such conflict is hard-wired into the mechanism, the competitive motive might actually be regarded as more like a down-loaded program that is quickly outliving its usefulness in the evolutionary scheme, and therefore should be escorted into obsolescence by employing counter-programs to modify the species before it reaches the point of self-destruction.

The human collective is essentially still in its infancy emotionally, and still very much involved in basic life lessons, such as how to get along peacefully and productively with each other. However, indulging the reproductive mandate now must be weighed against the impact of indiscriminate breeding on the global balance of sustainable environmental factors that constitute quality of life.

For example, the present and still rapidly growing planetary population is already straining available life-level resources, and hence may be more in need of restraint and curtailment, rather than allowed the endless uncontrolled expansion which has heretofore characterized the human experiment.

In any case, there is an emotional/sexual contraction at the root of most of our personal relationships, which manifests as a chronic inability to express intimacy in a mature and selfless manner, turning sex into a loveless automaticity, and/ or a game of power and control. It not only initiates and then perpetuates a neurotic ambivalence in male-female interactions, but will also pit women against each other, just as it manifests in male competition. Based on an unconscious compliance with genetic bits of mating software that still linger in the back of the primitive brain, males will typically continue to feel threatened by, and so continue to try to “one-up”, other men, and women will continue to feel threatened by, and so continue to resent, other women.

This whole paradigm is activated by a combustible mixture of desire and fear, resulting inevitably in separation and conflict. Due to a kind of amnesia that we necessarily accept when we fuse with the denser vibrational frequency of the human bio-vehicle, we invariably forget our true identity and assume that we are the body/mind organism, and thus the recipient of all the evolutionary genetic material that comes with being human.

The amazing truth, however, is that we are not now, nor have we ever been, humans. Those rare few who do manage to awaken to their true identity realize directly that they are not the body, nor the human personality, but are merely “living the human” in order to enjoy that unique experiential possibility (whether it seems currently enjoyable by conventional standards or not).

From the viewpoint of expanded consciousness, we can recognize that we are that conscious light energy which “inhabits” humans. The process itself is similar to the way in which we might get identified with a digital video avatar in a virtual reality game. While we are so identified, we seem to suffer the same fate, but when the game is over, we realize that we are not that character. That character is a fantasy. It was a game all along.

In our ineffable play, we have inhabited millions of different sentient beings, which we tweak along the way in order to efficiently fuse with them. Humans are only one species out of countless numbers that have momentarily beguiled us, to the point where we are inspired to meld with them in order to expand the universal knowledge base of our particular soul group, and also to have something interesting to share in terms of stories and adventures when we rejoin that spirit family after dipping into some aspect or other of creaturely life.

Being human does make for some great campfire tales, in a manner of speaking, and also allows us to explore certain manifestations that are foreign to our true nature. In that, it is similar to the phenomenon in which some people enjoy horror movies and such vicarious thrills that are not ordinarily a part of their regular life. Indeed, material creations themselves are so opposite from our natural state as Spirit that we find them endlessly intriguing, and so by “becoming them”, we have the opportunity of discovering more about what we are made of, and thus enhance our soul evolution in this way.

For example, being harmonious and genderless ourselves, we find the typical human conflicts based on sexual polarities fascinating, and are moved to insert ourselves into the situation to get a closer look, so to speak. Indeed, the potential of exploring intimate human relations is one of the chief factors which draw us to the human incarnational possibility. Nevertheless, it ultimately remains a “virtual reality”, since our true identity is timeless Spirit.

While we as immortal souls, or luminous beings, are temporarily occupying human hosts, we approach the adventure seriously, as if we really are those human characters, like actors believing they actually are the roles they are playing on the stage, just so that the experience seems vivid and realistic as it unfolds. If we realized all along that it was just a game, it wouldn’t have the same impact or educational value, and so we voluntarily accept the amnesia that obscures our true identity.

Consequently, when it comes to gender issues, the salient point is not so much about some conflict between or among the sexes, but more accurately boils down to how much restraint we are willing to exert over the human host animal. Human animals tend to be erratic in action, and are often selfish and even violent by their very nature, but their behavior can be modified and controlled.

The chronic friction, or battle, is not based on some unbridgeable gulf between men and women, but rather arises as a result of our dual natures — human animal versus soul energy. For example, if we just sit back and let the human personality do its thing, then it will stay true to its animal nature, and all the permutations of the emotional-sexual contraction will likely manifest in gender-related strife and disharmony.

However, if we bring to bear some of our innate soul power, we might elevate the animal activity to a higher standard, and benignly moderate its instinctual behavior to refrain from doing harm — killing other animals over animal issues for one good example. In that case, human animal nature is being overridden by our spiritual nature. What is considered “self-control” is actually the soul inside the human exercising its free will to reign in its host’s “natural” behavior.

The crisis of internal division that plagues most humans is due to the fact that they are asleep to their true identity, and so we develop popular concepts like “conscience” to account for that part of us that is somehow “moral”. In fact, just like any other animals, humans have no innate morality. It is only the soul occupier that has that more complex capacity. Moreover, as much as the soul will attempt to impose its higher view on the animal, to that extent there may also be resistance — a pushing back from the host, just like a recalcitrant pet that resists being trained.

This push/pull is the source of endless problems, and accounts for much of the stress and anxiety manifesting in human beings on this planet, which the pharmaceutical industries have attempted to ameliorate with drugs like Prozac, the human religions have attempted to resolve with myths of saviors and the imposition of “Divine commandments”, and political institutions have striven to reign in with various legal decrees, police forces, courts, and prisons.

On the other hand, when we say that the human individual is behaving as a mature, well-adjusted, and responsible adult, it just means that they have been well-trained and tamed by their occupier soul/light being. Through repetition, souls can train their human hosts to eliminate bad behaviors and favor good behaviors. In this way, human males and females can learn how to get along without conflict, without resort to domineering roles, and without physical/sexual exploitation and abuse.

This is also why it is important to begin the training while the animal is still young, in order to effectively teach it how to conduct itself. After all, it’s hard to “teach an old dog new tricks”, as the saying goes. However, the more one awakens to their true spiritual nature and power, the more they are able to affect positive changes while inhabiting the human host, such as eliminating the selfishness, greed, envy, hatred, arrogance, and ignorance that habitually characterize the untrained animal, and which create so much of the traditional conflict between and among the genders throughout this realm.



About Bob OHearn

My name is Bob O'Hearn, and I live with my Beloved Mate, Mazie, in the foothills of the Northern California Sierra Nevada Mountains. I have a number of blog sites you may enjoy: Photo Gallery: Essays on the Conscious Process: Compiled Poetry and Prosetry: Verses and ramblings on life as it is: Verses and Variations on the Investigation of Mind Nature: Verses on the Play of Consciousness: Poetic Fiction, Fable, Fantabulation: Poems of the Mountain Hermit: Love Poems from The Book of Yes: Autobiographical Fragments, Memories, Stories, and Tall Tales: Ancient and modern spiritual texts, creatively refreshed: Writings from selected Western Mystics, Classic and Modern: Wisdom of a Spirit Guide: Thank You!
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4 Responses to Battle of the Sexes

  1. Bob OHearn says:

    Male and female sexes. You ask if such things exist on a soul level. The only levels that exist are essentially in your own mind. For it is — how and what you perceive yourself as being is a state of mind.

    What exists in your mind thusly exists on a soul level. Is this to say, after your physical passing you will continue to look, think and behave as you did as a biological human being? In a sense, and for some degree of time yes you will. Why is this? This is because the cellular memory of each cell of your biology continues to exist and function independently of your physical ‘stuff’.

    When your consciousness detaches from your physical body it interacts with your cellular memory and your beliefs about yourself, projecting them as your immediate reality. You still look human because you still think you are human. You still, even after passing retain all your male and female bits and pieces simply because you presume, in thought and belief, that they should still be there. Being human, looking the way you do is all you have perceived yourself to be for the most part, therefore it is not going to change the moment you pass to the spirit world. In fact many millions of spirit beings still look exactly the way they did when they were on the Earth, despite having passed many hundreds of years previous. They refuse to see themselves in any other way, therefore they remain in appearance as they once did.

    Is this then to say such beings, after having passed over to the spirit world, can do and interact with things as physical beings can? Indeed so, for in fact those in the spirit world can, if they so choose, be as physical and solid as they were on Earth. Just because they have left one dimension for another, does not mean they cannot bring those beautiful aspects with them for their spirit to retain in its eternal joy. Nothing is lost, not even your affirmations for solid physical sense of touch, sight, sound, smell or taste.

    If it exists in thought, it exists for your soul, for your soul is the sum of your thoughts and feelings, the sum of your human persona that you identity as being you.
    In the spirit world, as is in yours, you are that which you think yourself to be. Only in the spirit world, you can think yourself to be anything you wish, even if it is 5 different things at once, you can exist in multiple forms and appearances simultaneously; but only if you ‘think’ you can. If you think you cannot, then so shall you not. Will you be male or female? It matters not. You can be both simultaneously or neither.


  2. Bob OHearn says:

    “Nobody will ever win the Battle of the Sexes. There is too much fraternizing with the Enemy.”

  3. Bob OHearn says:

    “The leader of a Pakistani Islamic council has proposed a bill that allows husbands to “lightly beat” their wives as a form of discipline. In the 75-page proposal, Mohammad Khan Sheerani suggests a light beating is acceptable should the need arise to punish a woman. The proposal bans forceful beating, saying only a small stick is necessary to instill fear.

    The Council of Islamic Ideology is a powerful constitutional body that advises the Pakistani legislature whether laws are in line with the teachings of Islam.
    Its proposed bill is seen as a response to the rejected Punjab Women Protection bill for abused women. The council shunned it as “un-Islamic” and wrote its own bill, which includes the recommendation for the light beating.
    “A husband should be allowed to lightly beat his wife if she defies his commands and refuses to dress up as per his desires; turns down demand of intercourse without any religious excuse or does not take bath after intercourse or menstrual periods,” Pakistan’s Express-Tribune newspaper cited the proposal as saying.
    The proposal also calls for a beating if a woman does not wear a hijab, if she interacts with strangers, speaks too loudly or gives others cash without her husband’s permission, according to the newspaper.
    It also suggests bans on various activities, including women fighting in wars. But it allows women to participate in politics and become judges, and proposes that the need for a guardian for women of age is not required.
    The proposal also says that women should not be permitted to receive non-relatives or foreign officials, and they should not use birth control pills without asking their husbands.”

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